Tuesday, December 1, 2009

For Richer, For Poorer...

I should have listened to my father. He wanted me to marry a rich doctor or lawyer. He even asked Hubby when he first met him, " Son, are you a doctor or a lawyer?" And of course Hubby answered, "No sir." Then my dad said, " Well, then what are you doing with my daughter?" He might as well have been standing there with his shotgun in his hand! But Hubby wasn't too intimidated. He has a way with people and he was able to comfort my dad some. At least my dad knew we loved each other. Of course he still doesn't think Hubby is good enough for me and he makes comments on a regular basis that Hubby should get a better job.

So, I made the mistake of marrying for love and not money. Somehow it seemed so logical in the beginning. We were madly in love with each other and we were happy with what little we had. But times change and people change. And unfortunately love doesn't seem enough anymore.

Don't get me wrong, I am not some shopaholic who has to shop and buy needless things to make me feel better. Actually I am the complete opposite. I feel guilty if I buy myself anything! I mean anything! I haven't had my hair cut in like 6 months or more. I feel guilty spending that kind of money. And my haircuts only cost like $40. I just want to be able to pay the basic bills on a monthly basis and buy food when we need it and pay the mortgage and not have to stress out about it. And I stress out about it big time! Hubby tells me not to worry, it will all work out, it always does. Whatever! Someone has to worry about this kind of stuff. I mean he will buy a "man-toy" in a minute. He has bought $200 remote control cars, guitars, expensive cameras, guns, and most recently a $6000 4-wheeler!

I don't have a problem with buying things when you can afford them. But when you have $.08 (yes, that is eight cents) in your savings account, you don't have the money to buy needless things. But that is how he was brought up. He got whatever he wanted. And his parents are the same way. They have NO retirement money set aside. But they have a place at the beach and 2 really nice SUV cars, they go on vacation all the time, they buy whatever they want, whenever they want and live for today. I just wasn't brought up that way. I don't have anything against living in the moment, but you have to think about tomorrow too!

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